If your husband doesn’t want to have sex with you anymore, you must be wondering why this happens. After all, men crave sex much more than women do, for them it’s merely a physical thing and isn’t affected by outside factors, right?
Wrong! This is just a myth.
Men are as much emotional and mental creatures as women are and their sex drive is affected by numerous outside factors.
For instance, if a man has trouble at his work, this will create a lot of stress which is known to directly affect sexual stimulation and desire. It’s not just you who needs to be calm and collected to enjoy sex, men need the same things.
So, ask yourself if there is an outside factor which may affect your husband’s sex drive. If so, you need to help him deal with it as best you can. Do it as a team.
Stop blaming yourself
The most common thought which springs to women’s mind when their husband stops wanting to have sex is that he doesn’t find them attractive anymore or doesn’t love them. This doesn’t have to be the case and is likely not the reason why your marriage is sexless.
Although you do need to make sure that you look your best by working out, dressing nice, smelling nice, and so on, your husband probably still finds you attractive and loves you. You don’t need to look for the reason in the mirror. It is probably somewhere else.
Since you need to feel close to your husband to crave sex, ask yourself if you two have drifted apart recently. Men need an emotional connection as well, they crave intimacy just as you do. If you two don’t spend enough time together, hardly do anything special, lead a boring routine, then it may be the reason why your husband doesn’t want to have sex anymore. You need to work hard to make your relationship as close and intimate as it once was.
Before you try to analyze your relationship, you need to rule out physical issues. If your husband suffers from erectile disfunction, it’s only reasonable for him to not crave sex. This is something which can and should be treated and the results may surprise the both of you.
If your man has started to take medication of some sort, it may have caused an hormonal imbalance which is lowering his Testosterone which can explain why his sex drive is diminishing. Ask your doctor what can be done.
You have to make sure to be gentle with your husband because this is a delicate issue. However, with the right support, you can be a great help to him and motivate him to seek treatment.
Spice things up
You can and should do what you can to spice things up in the bedroom. You have to feel comfortable with anything that you do, but variety does help spark a man’s interest. Make sure that you two don’t fall into a boring routine and you will do much much better together.
Above all, don’t lose hope. You can do a lot to cure your sexless marriage and bring back the passion. It is mainly up to how your work to fix your relationship and how you learn to reignite your love.