When I first started this website it was to provide advice and information for people who are living in a sexless marriage and want to fix it. It’s no secret that my programs on how to fix a sexless marriage have been used by hundreds of couples around the world. I’m very proud of that. It’s something that I created and I love the fact that it is making a change for the better in people’s lives.
Increasingly, though, I get visitors who aren’t really sure that they’re actually living in a sexless marriage or not. They know that there is something seriously wrong in their relationship. They’re not happy or satisfied in it. However, they don’t know whether this qualifies as being sexless. It’s as if they want nothing more than to hear that everything is OK, as if being told that their marriage is not, in fact, sexless will somehow make everything better.
For this reason, I decided to compose a short sexless marriage quiz and post it on this page. It’s not a scientific quiz by any means. It is a short list of questions that I view as important. You can either accept the results or not as you wish.
But before I get to the quiz, it’s important to state that the commonly referred to sexless marriage definition states that a couple need to have sex 10 times a year or less in order to qualify for this dubious title. I don’t agree to this definition as I feel that it’s an attempt to put into definite terms something which is emotional. I believe that this is a personal decision that each person needs to make for themselves.
So here are a few questions that you need to answer. The more Yes questions you get, the more likely your marriage is to be sexless.
My Sexless Marriage Quiz
1. Do you have sex less than twice a month?
Again, this isn’t a frequency which is set in stone. However, it is a good indication of what’s going on.
2. Was the last time you had sex over 6 months ago?
The longer it’s been, the more clearly you can state that you’re in a sexless relationship.
3. Is your partner showing little or no interest in sex?
4. Do you need to initiate all sexual contact?
5. When you do have sex, do you feel as if your spouse is “doing you a favor”?
6. Does your spouse show little willingness to discuss this issue or sex at all?
7. Do you feel frustrated and confused by the lack of sexual intimacy?
8. Is your partner behaving as if everything is alright or that you are the one who has a problem?
I feel that if you answered YES to 5 or more of these questions, then you’re probably living in a sexless marriage and you need to take action to fix it. However, know that this is a personal decision and that no one can decide for you how you feel.
I hope that this sexless marriage quiz has helped you to see things more clearly.